You Say I’m a Slut Like it’s a Bad Thing

Yes, I have been called the S-word once. (emphasis on once) I may have deserved it but then again maybe not. That’s not what this is all about. That experience however, made the word slut have a different ring to it since then. It used to have a playful, positive meaning to me.

Merriam-Webster defines slut as a promiscuous woman; especially: prostitute. I resent the latter. I have nothing against prostitutes. I’m sure they all have their reasons. We all choose what we want to be and they chose. I am not about to judge them and what they do for a living. I resent it because I don’t get paid. Haha! Now, promiscuous is easier to swallow for me. Again, it’s a choice, a choice to not be restricted to one sexual partner. As long as my husband is fine with it, I don’t see anything wrong with it. I’m not hurting anyone. Then again, you can argue that I am bound to hurt someone’s feelings. It might not be my husband’s but it could be the other guy’s or worse, my own. Oh well, we all have choices.

Meaning aside, it’s also a double standard. Christina Aguilera’s song Can’t Hold Us Down sums up my feelings about the issue real well.

The guy gets all the glory the more he can score
While the girl can do the same and yet you call her a whore

I don’t understand why its okay
The guy can get away with it & the girl gets named

If the guy have three girls then he’s the man
He can either give us some head, sex her raw
If the girl does the same, then she’s a whore

The depressing thing is that such view not only comes from men but women too. In a society where we’re told how women should behave, it’s sad that some of these women don’t think for themselves and just want to go with the flow. It’s always harder to go against the grain. I guess if you can’t stand up for yourself, the least you could do is not judge others who can. They should be an inspiration, not outcasts.